About dating and relationships
In most aspects of modern life, God doesn’t provide cookie-cutter answers or formulas.
But be encouraged, though He may not always provide us with the direct plan, He always gives us everything we need to get where He wants us to go.
Type the word “dating” into your Bible search tool and what comes up? When I was single, I remember wishing there was an entire book—or even just a chapter—of the Bible dedicated to the topic of dating.
But though the Scriptures are filled with foundational life-changing truths, there are plenty of topics the Bible doesn’t specifically speak to.
Yet even without an official ‘boyfriend’ there are normally several text conversations with potential beaus buzzing away on my phone.
I also tend to have a few guys on a low-level stalk on Facebook, and there’s always that frisson of excitement when an attractive man retweets one of my ‘LOLz-ier’ status updates. I wasn’t the only one of my girlfriends to leave early that night.
Actually phone someone up to ask them out and agree on a date at some point in the future and put it in my diary? We have more visual and audio cues to help us form an impression of someone.’ Of course endless texting will never offer the same insight into someone’s personality as even a single face-to-face conversation.
I am not in a relationship – or in what someone 20 years older than me would consider a relationship – yet rarely am I definitively single. Our vocabulary is straining as much as we are to encompass the world of modern dating. Recently The New York Times questioned whether traditional courtship was over, and whether ‘hanging out’ had replaced ‘dating’. Last Friday night I met four girlfriends for drinks after work. We’d met at a mutual friend’s party around Christmas, and had seen each other a couple of times since with friends. We follow the new rules as assiduously as they do, are just as uneasy about being pinned down, just as likely to be the texter as the textee. Why make a phone-call or suggest a date when you can send a non-committal text that merely dangles the possibility of meeting?
All week we’d been texting, messaging and emailing. If, like me, you’re a ‘millennial’ (born between 19) you will have never known adulthood – or adult relationships – without a mobile phone. Instead of dating (an American term anyway) we might be ‘seeing someone’, ‘having a thing’, ‘hooking up’. ) let the rest of the world into our online world with gay abandon: you’d like to see 50 pictures of me on a bikini on the beach? If they’re keen, you’ll see each other; if not, they’ll plead prior plans. But at least one of you can end up feeling confused.
Though the Bible doesn’t talk directly about dating, it does speak volumes about relationships, godly interactions and principles that can be applied to how you date.
1 Corinthians reminds us that no matter what it is we’re doing; it can be used as a means to glorify God.
On the contrary, they’re set so both partners can feel more free to do things they want and spend time with others.