21 year old dating 14 year old
There was something especially cool about being friends with them. "I don't want you hanging around with someone that much older than you.""Mom." I'm sure I rolled my eyes. ""So, no normal 20 year old wants to hang out with someone who is 15. Stay away from him."This was the sort of thing that always led to my leaving the room in a teary huff, maintaining loudly that she Just Didn't Understand. One Saturday, the guys planned a picnic in a nearby forest park. We had gotten in the habit of him driving me home, and my suddenly wanting to make different arrangements seemed to inconvenience everyone.
We were still at an age where our parents insisted on treating us like children. Once again, she was treating me like a child, someone unable to make her own decisions. It didn't seem like such a big deal, as my best friend was doing nothing sneaking around to be with her boyfriend. Suddenly, I wasn't that scared, invisible girl anymore, watching from the sidelines. I remember it was a gorgeous fall day, crisp and cool, and the first time I'd had Brie cheese and red wine. Even worse, I couldn't say why I didn't want to go with him.
In tenth grade, we made friends with a group of older guys who hung out on the main street of town, which ran parallel to the local university — guys who'd once gone to our same high school and had never left the social scene. I remember how quiet it was, birds soaring overhead, no other sound. "Like we were supposed to be boyfriend and girlfriend, or something.""Well," she said slowly. I'd completely accepted her romance with an older guy as normal, even destined. When he wasn't upset, he was in kindness overdrive, buying me things: a gold necklace with a floating heart, stuffed animals.
When they weren't doing BMX and skateboard tricks in front of the post office, they were spending what money they had at the nearby arcade, or spinning on stools and shooting straw wrappers in their favorite burger joint, just across the street. I grew to dread the moments we were alone, especially when I needed a ride home at the end of the night to make my curfew.
Many parents in this situation fear that their 16-year-old will become pregnant or that her heart will be broken by this young man.
These are all valid questions and make the situation difficult to handle.
Parents must also deal with their daughter's often stubborn intention to date this young man.
She may be so infatuated with him that she views anything that her parents say against the relationship as a personal attack.
Should you allow your daughter to date an older boy?I've began messaging and after the usual small talk and flirtatious banter she told me she was actually 16 and not 19 as her profile had said. I know guys with the same 5 year gap and they had no worries doing it.I didn't said its a little weird but we continued talking, I had no intentions of taking things further. She shares almost every view I have on a political and philosophical level as well as a smiliar taste in music (mine is super obscure) as well as art and film. I know people who were 25 and 16 and have been going strong for a few years now but it still feels weird and I can't decide what to do.Discussion different things from hobbys and interests to personnel aspirations. So theres this girl i like, and i know she likes me.
She added me on Facebook and from there we have been chatting a lot. I definitely want to keep her in my life even if just as a friend but I would prefer to be intimate.